Say, “I really like the way that outfit matches your eyes,” or, “You have the cutest haircut. ” Include compliments about her personality. For example, “I love your laugh,” and “You’re so smart,” are excellent, simple compliments that you can use. Try to compliment things that relate to her specifically. Saying that she lives in a nice house, for example, isn’t going to get you anywhere. Try to compliment a girl when you’re spending time with her alone. If you’re with a group of people, they may poke fun at you for trying to flirt.
If it turns out she doesn’t like you back, you can always play it off like the eye contact and smiling were simply you being nice. Making eye contact is a sign of confidence. Don’t stare for more than 4-5 seconds. Aggressive staring can come off as creepy if you do it for too long.
If she cuddles her way under your arm or holds your hand, continue walking for a little so that you don’t seem too eager. Another common way to test the mood is to try and brush her hair back. While this move certainly looks good in the movies, it can be kind of risky. She may think you’re reaching for her face and turn away. Hand holding is a more concrete sign she is ready for a kiss than the shoulder move is, but trying to wrap your arm around her requires less of a risk. Choose a move based on how confident you feel.
If she kisses you first, don’t stop her to ask for her consent. You already have it. Throw in a breath mint or a piece of gum a few minutes before asking her to kiss you to ensure that your breath isn’t nasty. Once you have consent, don’t waste your time. Turn to face her and get ready!
If you’re not comfortable holding her hand or wrapping your arms around her, consider putting your hands on her shoulders. This is a good middle ground between a full embrace and standing still. Unless it’s a playful, quick smooch, don’t put your arms down to your sides. It will make you seem like you’re not emotionally invested in the kiss.
Keep your mouth closed. You kiss with lips, not teeth!
Avoid jerking movements and try to be smooth as you do this. It should be a subtle, simple motion. Lean in with your whole body. Don’t stick your head out like you’re scared of her! Don’t turn your head so far that your lips are going to make a cross.
Keeping your eyes open while kissing is a bad idea. It can look kind of creepy and is considered to be a beginner mistake. Smile a little as you’re leaning in to let her know that you’re happy about kissing her.
To pull her closer, try moving your hands around her back and leaning into her. Don’t shove your tongue down her throat. Keep your tongue behind your teeth.
You don’t have to switch sides if you don’t want to, but your neck will get sore after a minute or so, especially if she’s shorter than you and you have to lean down to kiss her.
Always get consent first, even for a simple peck on the cheek.
If she resists in any way, don’t try to keep lifting her up. Some girls don’t like being lifted off of the floor.
Don’t overdo it with the French kissing if you have a lot of saliva built up in your mouth. Take breaks! It can be hard to breathe if you’re mouths are locked in a French kiss for more than 10-20 seconds.
